Sup! Since it's been a while.... thought I would post an update! After being married for almost three months, I want to share my experience so far! Here goes...
Things that caught me by surprise:
-being tired so often
-always having lots of work to do
-past arguments coming up
-feeling eager to find my "calling"
-not seeing friends as often
With that said, there are plenty of great things that caught me by surprise as well. These are:
-quality time with my love
-cooking more
-having outdoor plants
-personalizing our home
-having a pet hamster
These are just a few things that come to mind.
Marriage brings about a sense of adulthood. One author said it this way: marriage is the first step into adulthood. I couldn't agree more. Even though I am a rookie at marriage compared to many people, I've already learned quite a bit. Priorities change. Perspectives change. YOU change! I believe that marriage can make you a better person, if you let it. As you live life with your spouse, you begin to influence each other -- you become each other's greatest influence. You see the good and the bad, and it's not always pretty! But, that's not always a bad thing. You can start to change. Change the bad things. Become a better person. Mature. And that takes humility.
I've learned that prayer is the best solution to any problem. Sure, things may not change right away. But, coming to God in prayer, with humility, is a good first step into change. It takes faith to please God, and praying is definitely an act of faith. When we eagerly and genuinely seek God, we are being transformed into the people we ought to be. Trusting God is key in all of this... and of course, loving Him as well.
In my marriage, it's important to remember that God is the center of it all. God brought us together, and He has a plan for us! Too often I forget that. When I forget God I become focused on petty things, worry about my future, and ultimately lose trust in God. That's a sin, people! One that must be repented of.
A good marriage takes time. It also takes understanding, grace, responsibility, and of course, Jesus! God has a lot of things to say about marriage. You just need to open up the Bible and read for yourself! Something our pastor told us was "Jesus only." Instead of the usual phrase "Jesus first," he wanted to emphasize the importance of factoring God into EVERYTHING! Rather than segregating our life into different parts (for example: Jesus, spouse, work), we should factor God into every part of our lives. Seek Him in your relationship with your spouse. Seek Him as you are doing your best at your job. Seek Him as you ponder your future and make life-altering decisions. Seek Him.
Perhaps all of this seems jumbled. Maybe that's marriage! No.. that's life! Key thing to take away: humility. You need to be humble when it comes to having a good marriage. You need to be humble when it comes to seeking God. Seeking God in your marriage is the best thing you can do for each other. He is the one who created marriage. It's safe to say He knows how it ought to function.
Marriage, and life, will throw curve balls at you sometimes. You may not always be ready for them. It's important to seek God in everything, to make Him your Rock. He is a firm and steady foundation. He has the answer. Heck, He is the answer! We should not be seeking Him just to get something from Him. We should be seeking Him for that purpose alone -- to seek Him! Relationship. And as a good Father, He will provide you with what you need in due time. He provided me with a good marriage. And I know He will provide me with whatever I need for the next step in this life! Trust.
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